Vicki Van Der Hoek slowly flipped through pages of a newspaper at her dining room table while early morning sunlight streamed through a corner window.
All she wanted was to be in bed where she could escape her sadness.
There was so much to escape from that spring day in 2002.
Recently diagnosed with fibromyalgia, an inflammatory condition that made her every movement painful, she was in the middle of a messy divorce, and her home was gone, too. She’d been forced to leave her large, five-bedroom brick house with the swimming pool. Now the middle-aged woman lived in a little rental in Morrow, a blonde-headed, green-eyed stranger in a predominantly African-American neighborhood.
Childless, she took note of her neighbors’ yards dotted with bicycles and toys — mute reminders that she was really on her own.
Her one bright spot was Lucky, her sizable Labrador-shepherd dog with alert, espresso-colored eyes.
It was the appropriately named pooch, which Vicki adorned with a red paisley neckerchief, that would lead her to a fortuitous meeting with a little boy with a big smile — 6-year-old Leon Shields.
She was white. He was African American. She was broke, at least until her divorce was finalized. He was from a middle-class, two-parent family. She was lonely. He had plenty of friends. They were 45 years apart.
But Leon would give Vicki a reason to get out of bed every day. Ultimately, she says now, he saved her life.
Photo: Leon plays with Vicki's dog Bobby as Vicki looks on at her home in Morrow. Hyosub Shin, hshin@ajc.com
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Changing dynamic
Over the years, the Clayton County neighborhood of vinyl-sided homes that Vicki and Leon shared began to fall into decline. Several houses went into foreclosure; others were converted to rentals. Yards were neglected.
In 2005, Leon and his family left for a new construction home about five miles away.
Vicki, attached to her lake view, decided to remain. And with Leon’s afterschool babysitter living in the same neighborhood, it was easy for Vicki and Leon to continue seeing each other regularly.
By now Vicki’s divorce was well behind her. Her financial status had improved and she’d reconnected with old friends. She was dating. She was feeling better. With more energy and resources, she began taking Leon on outings to the Georgia Aquarium, Oakland Cemetery and the King Center. And she started traveling the globe again — Russia, Cuba, Costa Rica, China.
When Leon was in the sixth grade, he was assigned a school project on China. While attentive and well-behaved, Leon was not studious. He was getting by with C’s and even a few D’s.
When he mentioned the project to Vicki, she pulled out photo albums, paper currency, restaurant menus, a ticket to the Palace Museum and other items from her trip to China. Soon her dining room table was covered with photographs of the Great Wall and terracotta sculptures. Leon carefully picked up each photograph, each ticket, each menu and jotted down notes in a spiral notebook as Vicki explained the significance of each item. He took what he learned and turned it into an illustrated report, which earned him an A-plus.
No more C’s and D’s for me, he told Vicki. I’ve made up my mind: only A’s and B’s for me from now on.
After that, Leon’s grades steadily improved. He would eventually go on to graduate in the top 15th percentile of his class.
Photo: Vicki and Leon frequent the restaurant at the Renaissance Concourse Atlanta Airport Hotel where they eat lunch and watch the planes take off and land. Leon is close to getting his pilot’s license and is studying aviation administration in college. Hyosub Shin, hshin@ajc.com
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Cultural exchange
Who has seen the Leonardo da Vinci exhibit at the High Museum, asked Leon’s 8th grade art teacher at Adamson Middle School.
Leon’s hand shot up in the air.
Vicki had taken him to see the 2009 exhibition of constructions made from da Vinci’s sketches of fanciful inventions. Leon had been especially fascinated by the three stories-high replica of da Vinci’s Sforza Horse monument.
As he walked out of class that day, he noticed the teacher had a print of Van Gogh’s “Sunflowers” on her desk. He had also seen Van Gogh masterpieces at the museum on another trip with Vicki.
As high school loomed, Vicki began to fear their relationship would change. What teenage boy wants to pal around with a woman who was nearly 60? she wondered.
But she was wrong.
Once Leon became a teenager, the dynamic between them changed, but not in the way Vicki anticipated. They continued to spend time together but on more equal footing, like friends instead of mentor and mentee.
One of their favorite things to do became something they called film camp.
Seated side by side on Vicki’s amber-colored paisley couch, they watched double features of classic movies such as "Casablanca," "To Kill a Mockingbird" and "Cool Hand Luke."
Vicki would organize the movie based on a theme, and between features they would go out to lunch and discuss the films over pizza or burgers. They both agreed that “Citizen Kane” was the worst movie ever made, and they didn’t care what film historians said.
And sometimes they hosted dinners for visiting dignitaries from around the globe for the Georgia Council for International Visitors, a nonprofit cultural exchange program, Vicki had become involved with.
In preparation to receive their first guests — three journalists from Burundi — Vicki and Leon worked together like a team, shopping for groceries and preparing a meal of baked chicken, rice, vegetables and chocolate ice cream. Since then, Vicki has hosted groups from 60 countries; often with Leon by her side.
“She has exposed me to so many things, and opened my eyes to so many things,” Leon said. “I wouldn’t be the person I am if it weren’t for her.”
Photo: Julius Alexander (right), founder of ACE Academy, observes Leon complete a flight check on a Cessna plane at Fulton County airport. Leon hopes to be a commercial pilot one day. Hyosub Shin, hshin@ajc.com
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Sky’s the limit
One sunny afternoon in August, Leon and Vicki sat in the dining room of the Renaissance Concourse Hotel by the Atlanta airport and watched planes take off and land, one after another.
Leon, now 19, is a sophomore at Clayton State University, studying aviation administration.
From an early age, Leon had expressed an interest in being a pilot. For his 13th birthday, Vicki took him on a tour at FlightSafety aviation school in Atlanta, and a manager there gave him a free flight simulation experience.
When Vicki heard about Aviation Career Enrichment (ACE), a non-profit that helps provide aviation opportunities to young people of color, she encouraged Leon to apply, and he was accepted into the highly competitive program.
“She has always encouraged me to follow my dream of being a pilot,” Leon said.
He’s close to getting his pilot license, having completed 54 hours of flight time through ACE. Someday he hopes to be a commercial pilot.
A waiter takes their orders, and Leon orders a Shirley Temple, his favorite. Noting that Leon is driving, Vicki orders wine. The server asks if they want the usual — a portobello sandwich for her; a hamburger and fries for him. Leon opts to try something new — a barbecue sandwich.
While they eat, they chat about planes, (Leon can identify every one) and an upcoming dinner with the Georgia Council for International Visitors.
They talk like two old friends who have known each other a long time.
Leon is no longer the chatty little kid from the neighborhood. He is a young man, soft-spoken, even-keeled and focused. Vicki is no longer the forlorn neighbor, resisting the urge to wallow in bed.
“You never know what’s going to happen in your life,” said Vicki, smiling brightly. “Who could have ever imagined a child in my neighborhood could have made such a difference in my life? Who could ever imagine we would still be friends? No one could plan what we have.”
Much has happened in their lives over the past 13 years, but they have remained constants all that time.
They met by chance, thanks to a dog named Lucky. And despite their differences in age, race and circumstance, they have enriched each other’s lives in meaningful ways.
People rarely know when something great is about to happen. It’s only when they embrace the possibility — and the people around them — that they can experience something as extraordinary as the friendship Vicki and Leon share.
HOW WE GOT THE STORY
An avid AJC reader and a fan of Personal Journeys, Vicki Van Der Hoek emailed us in May 2014 after we ran the story “Mondays with Mr. Collins,” about a troubled African-American child who was helped by his friendship with a retired white man. (You can read that story here). Vicki thought we might be interested in telling her story about how a young black boy helped her through a troubled time. She was correct.
Features writer Helena Oliviero spent several hours with Vicki and Leon at Vicki’s house, at the Fulton County airport where Leon takes aviation classes and at the Renaissance Hotel, their favorite spot to dine and watch planes take off and land.
Helena also spoke to Leon’s parents.
“Vicki talks about how much Leon has meant to her,” says Leon’s mother, Tonia Shields, “but we thank God for her. My husband and I say we wish we had someone like that in our lives when we were young.”
This is an inspiring story about a remarkable friendship — and how being open to the people around us can enrich our lives.
Suzanne Van Atten
Personal Journeys editor
personaljourneys@ajc.com
ABOUT THE REPORTER
Helena Oliviero joined the AJC in 2002 as a features writer. Previously she worked for the Sun News in Myrtle Beach, S.C., and Knight Ridder as a correspondent in Mexico. The leader of the pack in Personal Journeys, she’s written more than a dozen to date. She was educated at the University of San Francisco.
ABOUT THE PHOTOGRAPHER
Hyosub Shin was born and raised in South Korea. Inspired by the work of National Geographic photographers, he came to the United States to study photography and joined the AJC photo staff in 2007. Past assignments include the Georgia Legislative session, Atlanta Dream’s Eastern Conference title game, the Atlanta Air Show and the Atlanta Braves’ National League Division Series.
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